Man Day!!!

You know the drill, of getting ready for every 14th of February. This day is believed to be the chance you get to show your fondness for a significant other through gifts, your words, flowers, dinner, shows and any other baubles that women find romantic. Every Valentine’s Day, guys rack their brains for that one special, unique gift that will show that they really do care for you and made an effort.

Now ladies, we all know that guys really don't enjoy this that much. Let’s believe that seeing that priceless smile that acknowledges they have done well is priceless to them and they are not just thinking of how much this has cost them as that smile is the result of weeks of blood, sweat and consideration.

Here’s a big secret; guys feel left out. They don’t get any special holidays well apart from Father’s day which technically does not count if you are not one) where we ladies get to show how much we love and appreciate them. Being the gentlemen they are, no complaints are made so you do not think them less than being posh. 

As a result of this selfishness on our part ladies; a new holiday has been created. When? March 14th and you guessed right; a month after Valentine’s Day. Now be aware that you do not get a free day from work, it’s just one identical to Valentine’s Day; the difference is that, ITS ALL ABOUT THE MEN IN OUR LIVES. Not a big fan of the name; “STEAK AND BLOWJOB DAY” given as I am not married. So I have decided to tag it for myself as “MACHO DAY”.

Only conditions to this holiday is; no cards, no flowers, no special nights on the town; the name of the holiday explains it all, just a steak and a BJ. That’s it. However, I am a lady who loves to break rules and till I am married will not be signing unto the BJ reasoning.

Given my man blew my mind with his Valentine’s Day gift, I am signing on to “MACHO DAY” this year. For the crazy, God-fearing, rule-breakers and the ladies just wanting a change from the traditional things out there; this is for you. Things you can do to make his March 14th special;

• Stop all forms of moaning, nagging and complaining for a day: start his day with a nice peck on the lips or on the cheeks as you say good morning. If you have breakfast together normally, get him his breakfast and if early enough serve it to him in bed. Let the morning be as pleasant as possible in all you do. For this day, allow all his annoying habits and take it on nicely with a smile; i.e. him not tidying up after himself and leaving things lying around everywhere.

• No questions day:  Give you man 24 hours of not being queried and questioned. Let him be the one to choose to tell you about his day and how it went. From the benign such as ‘what time is it’ (now you wear a watch don’t u?) to the annoying (usually while watching a film or football match) that arrive as thick and fast as an Elephant’s pop shot, innumerate questions are a feature of any man’s day. This includes rhetorical, tricky (Would you still love me if…?) and highly dangerous questions (Am I fat?) or even ones that they can benefit from. For once let’s do the thinking for them and if it doesn’t go down too well, they will be sure to tell you.

• Ladies spending day: One of my favourites. For this day, give him the money to spend for lunch. As long as his spending is not something that will make you go bankrupt, just for today pick up his tabs and let him know you have got it covered.  

• Gaming day: Now be prepared to enjoy his gaming consoles with him. After a long day at the office, if you happen to get home before he does set up for dinner with a gaming session to follow. Give him one day to play his favourite games and possibly teach you. If he has thought you in the past, this is one day to challenge him to it and have a good laugh as you do.

• Let him decide the channel or what to watch or see in the cinema day: Now ladies, some guys are so caring that they would seat through the cheesiest chick flicks with you just to make you happy. For this day, let’s be prepared and happy to seat through the football matches (without asking any questions as they hate when you do that), their series and even their movies as boring as you might find it.

• The ‘no live pause football’ day: Just for this day allow the man to finish his match with no interruptions or asking him to pause so you can talk to him or find out information.

• Uninterrupted toilet day: Don’t know why but some guys have got a thing with the toilet. They could spend hours there. For some it’s a place to gather their thoughts and find some solace. So, just for this day; don’t go banging on the toilet door to get him out and resort to insults and threats when you are not getting your way. I know its annoying given we don’t understand what they get up to in there but just for this day, let there be no comments.

• No ‘what if’ or scenario asking day: Men wonder about stuff all the time. They internally speculate as to just how good they had been at (their job, life, where they are headed, family, irrelevant stuff, anime, etc.) and they spend hours asking themselves silly questions. Now for this day, lets no paint any scenarios for them that we will be quizzing them about to see what they would do if they were in the situation. Let’s call it “so what? Day” where we no matter what happens we just treat it as so what?

• The ‘nothing today’ day: Just one day where we don’t have anything planned or structured for them. No chores, nothing to fix or help around the house with. Obviously they will reserve the right to have a panic attack and instantly make loads of plans that are impossible to pull off. It doesn’t matter what they choose to do, for this one day just don’t plan it out.

• The ‘Oh my days’ day: One day guys are allowed to reply to everything with ‘oh my days’ in a variety of accents without any anger in return. Now the catch is this works with everything from ‘the kitchen sink is blocked’ to ‘I just got fired (joking! But be lenient if you get that)’

• Listen to his boring story day: Men have a lot of boring stories that they think are scintillating. Until now they have been ignored. Today they will be listened to. You will sit there enrapt as he spout them off one by one. If he acts them out, wears costumes or even shouts. This is one day you will have to forge interest and appear captivated as it’s been pushed aside for your TV time and stories.

• No set bed time day: He is allowed to come to bed whenever he chooses and you can’t get angry about it.

All in all, the aim is to ensure he enjoys every bit of the day; from when he gets up in the morning to when he goes to bed.

My baby, my man will be showered with the love and respect he deserves tomorrow (not like I don’t do this every day by the way). He will be waking up to a poem rendition that I wrote on how much I love him and how he makes my world amazing. This is to be served with breakfast in bed. His lunch is on me tomorrow as my baby will be getting an allowance. His mate’s girlfriends and I have all got dinner reservations for them at the best Steak House in town. The funny thing about this is none of them know of these plans, as we have nicely ensured they will all be present without them having a clue as to what they will be doing. For March 14th, our men will be getting to do whatever they want at a Penthouse booked for him and his mates for the whole weekend without any interruptions from us after we kiss them goodbye and head to work. As this is a surprise, we have their bags packed and waiting for them at their penthouse suite for the weekend. A man that makes an effort does deserve to be reminded of the king he is every now and then.

For the married ladies be sure to finish it up pleasing your man in bed just the way you know he likes it. Don’t be shy to get out that sexy lingerie you have been dying to try on.

For all guys reading; have a Happy Macho Day or Steak and BJ Day. Be sure to let us know if your lady treats you right and for the ladies be sure to share your experiences of what you got up to.

So, this is to all the KINGS out there; thanks for making our world ever more beautiful and special!

Mummy!!!

Mummy is a word known for many amazing things. For some people it holds a lot of hurt and pain, for others it holds warmth and love. Today being mother’s day in the UK, we thought we would share a collection of some of the poems we have come to love as a dedication to this special day.

We dedicate this to the mother figure in each and every woman around the world. For the moms, the moms to be, those patiently awaiting the opportunity to be a mom, for the women who have known hurt and pain in their experiences with their moms, for the amazing and great mothers out there who define what womanhood is all about and for the women who have been given the opportunity to rewrite their experience and live what a mom should be through their kids. We love you all and pray that God will continue to direct your paths and keep you strong and healthy.

Below are ten hand-picked poems for all the special women out there. Print them, share them, post them on. Do whatever you can. And if you can't, be sure to at least tell her you love, appreciate and if necessary forgive her. Tell her how great she is!

• My Mother

Who fed me from her gentle breast,
And hush'd me in her arms to rest,
And on my cheek sweet kisses prest?
                           My Mother.

When sleep forsook my open eye,
Who was it sung sweet hushaby,
And rock'd me that I should not cry?
                           My Mother.

Who sat and watch'd my infant head,
When sleeping on my cradle bed,
And tears of sweet affection shed?
                           My Mother.

When pain and sickness made me cry,
Who gaz'd upon my heavy eye,
And wept, for fear that I should die?
                           My Mother.

Who drest my doll in clothes so gay,
And taught me pretty how to play,
And minded all I had to say?
                           My Mother.

Who ran to help me when I fell,
And would some pretty story tell,
Or kiss the place to make it well?
                           My Mother.

Who taught my infant lips to pray,
And love God's holy book and day,
And walk in wisdom's pleasant way?
                           My Mother.

And can I ever cease to be
Affectionate and kind to thee,
Who wast so very kind to me,
                           My Mother.

Ah! no, the thought I cannot bear;
And if God please my life to spare,
I hope I shall reward thy care,
                           My Mother.

When thou art feeble, old, and gray,
My healthy arm shall be thy stay,
And I will soothe thy pains away,
                           My Mother.

And when I see thee hang thy head,
'Twill be my turn to watch thy bed,
And tears of sweet affection shed,
                           My Mother.

For God, who lives above the skies,
Would look with vengeance in His eyes,
If I should ever dare despise,
                           My Mother.

As amended in response to criticism, last verse rewritten read;

For could our Father in the skies
Look down with pleased or loving eyes,
If ever I could dare despise
                           My Mother.

Ann Jane Taylor

• To My Mother

Because I feel that, in the Heavens above,
The angels, whispering to one another,
Can find, among their burning terms of love,
None so devotional as that of "Mother,"
Therefore by that dear name I long have called you-
You who are more than mother unto me,
And fill my heart of hearts, where Death installed you,
In setting my Virginia's spirit free.

My mother—my own mother, who died early,
Was but the mother of myself; but you
Are mother to the one I loved so dearly,
And thus are dearer than the mother I knew
by that infinity with which my wife
Was dearer to my soul than its soul-life.

 Edgar Allan Poe, addressed to his mother-in-law

• Sonnets are full of love

Sonnets are full of love, and this my tome
Has many sonnets: so here now shall be
One sonnet more, a love sonnet, from me
To her whose heart is my heart's quiet home,
To my first Love, my Mother, on whose knee
I learnt love-lore that is not troublesome;
Whose service is my special dignity,
And she my loadstar while I go and come
And so because you love me, and because
I love you, Mother, I have woven a wreath
Of rhymes wherewith to crown your honored name:
In you not fourscore years can dim the flame
Of love, whose blessed glow transcends the laws
Of time and change and mortal life and death.

Christina Rossetti

• To My Mother

To-day's your natal day,
Sweet flowers I bring;
Mother, accept, I pray,
My offering.

And may you happy live,
And long us bless;
Receiving as you give
Great happiness.

Christina Rossetti

• M-O-T-H-E-R

"M" is for the million things she gave me,
"O" means only that she's growing old,
"T" is for the tears she shed to save me,
"H" is for her heart of purest gold;
"E" is for her eyes, with love-light shining,
"R" means right, and right she'll always be,
Put them all together, they spell "MOTHER,"
A word that means the world to me.

Howard Johnson

• Tribute to Mother

A picture memory brings to me;
I look across the years and see
Myself beside my mother's knee.
I feel her gentle hand restrain
My selfish moods, and know again
A child's blind sense of wrong and pain.

But wiser now,
a man gray grown,
My childhood's needs are better known.
My mother's chastening love I own.

 John Greenleaf Whittier

• Motherhood

The bravest battle that ever was fought!
Shall I tell you where and when?
On the maps of the world you will find it not;
'Twas fought by the mothers of men.

Nay not with the cannon of battle-shot,
With a sword or noble pen;
Nay, not with eloquent words or thought
From mouth of wonderful men!

But deep in a walled-up woman's heart --
Of a woman that would not yield,
But bravely, silently bore her part --
Lo, there is the battlefield!

No marshalling troops, no bivouac song,
No banner to gleam and wave;
But oh! those battles, they last so long --
From babyhood to the grave.

Yet, faithful still as a bridge of stars,
She fights in her walled-up town --
Fights on and on in her endless wars
Then silent, unseen, goes down.

Oh, ye with banners and battle-shot,
And soldiers to shout and paise!
I tell you the kingliest victories fought
Were fought in those silent ways.

O spotless woman in a world of shame,
With splendid and silent scorn,
Go back to God as white as you came --
The Kingliest warrior born!

Joaquin Miller

• Wonderful Mother

God made a wonderful mother,
A mother who never grows old;
He made her smile of the sunshine,
And He moulded her heart of pure gold;
In her eyes He placed bright shining stars,
In her cheeks fair roses you see;
God made a wonderful mother,
And He gave that dear mother to me.

 Pat O'Reilly

• Before the Birth of One of Her Children

All things within this fading world hath end,
Adversity doth still our joys attend;
No ties so strong, no friends so dear and sweet,
But with death's parting blow are sure to meet.
The sentence past is most irrevocable,
A common thing, yet oh, inevitable.
How soon, my Dear, death may my steps attend,
How soon't may be thy lot to lose thy friend,
We both are ignorant, yet love bids me
These farewell lines to recommend to thee,
That when the knot's untied that made us one,
I may seem thine, who in effect am none.
And if I see not half my days that's due,
What nature would, God grant to yours and you;
The many faults that well you know I have
Let be interred in my oblivious grave;
If any worth or virtue were in me,
Let that live freshly in thy memory
And when thou feel'st no grief, as I no harmes,
Yet love thy dead, who long lay in thine arms,
And when thy loss shall be repaid with gains
Look to my little babes, my dear remains.
And if thou love thyself, or loved'st me,
These O protect from stepdame's injury.
And if chance to thine eyes shall bring this verse,
With some sad sighs honor my absent hearse;
And kiss this paper for thy dear love's sake,
Who with salt tears this last farewell did take.

Anne Bradstreet

• Mother o' Mine

If I were hanged on the highest hill,
 Mother o' mine, O mother  o' mine
I know whose love would follow me still,
 Mother  o' mine, O mother  o' mine!

If I were drowned in the deepest sea,
 Mother  o' mine, O mother  o' mine
I know whose tears would come down to me,
 Mother  o' mine, O mother  o' mine!

If I were damned of body and soul,
I know whose prayers would make me whole,
 Mother  o' mine, 0 mother  o' mine!

Rudyard Kipling

My Body or My Character or Both?

When a guy meets a girl for the first time, what goes through his mind? When a girl meets a guy for the first time, what goes through her mind?

Having hung out with loads of guys and babes and studied their ways, I am familiar with the first thing that goes through each mind when they set their eyes on the opposite sex.

For him, his first thought is to check out your body and your so called assets. Has she got a nice body; flat tummy, reasonable boobs, nicely curved hips and a squeezable bum? How well do this rate? Whether or not he decides to approach the lady next is a matter of the conclusions he makes to these questions.

For her, her first thought is to check out the charisma he exuberates, his body and at times how rich he is, and his package? Whether or not she decides to go depends at times on how persistent he is, how well he is good with his words and how cute he is, physically and personality wise.

Now there are different sets of women in this world; the religious beauty, the materialistic ravisher, the sex freak, the knockout, and the perfect combo. Lets take a look at each;

The religious beauty: On her first encounter with a guy, she tries to make it as obvious as possible that she is so into her religion. So you hear lines like; what religion are you and how serious are you with it? She tries to win the guy over to her religion. As such on first seeing the guy, she is checking out how committed he is to his way of life, his personality and whatever religion he falls under. To her that's the priority before she goes to check out his build, and physical attributes.

The materialistic ravisher: Now she knows the guy with the big bucks. On first impression if you ain't got any funds and you are dressed like you have got nothing, she gives you a ridiculous glance over and either turns away ignoring you or walks away. The first thoughts as she looks at you is how much money are you reeking of. For her, she wants to see the Armani, Gucci, Prada, LV, Polo, and the D&G's. By just looking at you and giving you the once over, she can tell how much money you have got, and if you are playing rich or not (that is, if you have had to borrow these items to try and impress her).

The sex freak: She's all about the package. I mean how big are you down there and what she can do with that. So the men at heart with boy packages have got no chance with her. An exception might be if he knows how to use his other assets (i don't have to mention them, am sure you all know what am talking about...) or is capable of ensuring that she is satisfied to the core. Even for her, the physical appearance goes a long way in determining whether or not she actually decides to get to the stage of getting to see, and feel the package.

The knockout: Now she is the babe that leaves a lasting impression on the guy. I mean from the time he sets his eyes on her, she is all he wants. Why? She has got the total package; from the looks to the personality, to how she carries herself and how she dresses. This girl knows her stuff; what flatters her and who she is. She is proud of what she is and this is portrayed by how she carries and presents herself. Now she is the type a guy sees and straight away wants to wife. You have got to have your shit together to impress her and even get her to notice you as hse knows her worth.

The perfect combo: She is a mix of all the previous sets. She has got the mix of the sets explained above in the perfect blend a guy admires. She is religious, spends wisely on things that flatter her and are a necessity, encourages wise spending and a little spoiling once in awhile, knows her stuff in bed and has got the beauty and brains (the knock-out effect). Now she is the take home to mama and introduce as her new daughter in-law type. All she looks for is someone who is not afraid to let her in and get to know him for who is really he, what he has to offer and who she can be to him. Her choice is not necessarily dependent on the physical attributes but on a combination of character and how she is attracted to you.

Is there a possibility of meeting a woman with certain attributes from the sets? Yes, I believe there is. To an extent I believe there is a combination of sets during our life-cycle.

Now there are different sets of men in this world; the religious hunk, the goal getter, the mama's boy, the grandiose, and the perfect combo. Lets take a look at each;

The religious hunk: These guys will hardly date girls they did not meet in their religious setting. On his first encounter with a chick, she tries to see how seriously she takes the matters of God. He looks for the active participants in the place of worship. So choir members, ushers, creche workers etc tickle his fancy. Who a girl is and how she carries herself in the religious setting determines if he makes a move on you as this are the major determining factors for him when making a choice.

The goal getter: This is the career oriented man. His type of chick is a woman that can hold her own. She must have a good job with steady career progression. He is likely to meet girls he goes for through his business contacts, connections or work-related events . He will not go for a girl that could potentially be a liability for him. He likes that she works and they can rub minds together on the intellectual and social level. He loves to look good in public and admires a woman that matches this.

The mama's boy: The way to his heart is to possess the character he loves in his mom. Also once you win his mom over you are in. He looks for the comforting things that he has associated with his mom in girls. So if his mom is a great cook and that what he really loves; you will be considered as long as you know your stuff in the kitchen.Whatever he likes in his mom as long as you possess that quality you are fine.

The grandiose: Now he is into impressing others.As long as a girl is extravagant, flamboyant, and showy; you have got his attention. So if you are into designers, big cars and the likes you are definately his type. Now he might not be necessarily rich so if his status can be upgraded or you can support the life style he tries to protray, you are in.

The perfect combo: Now he has the other sets in a perfect mix. He is the man girls die to be with. The take me home to dad type as I have found the guy! As such he is a keeper. At the rate at which girls throw themselves at him, all he wants is one that loves him and makes him happy. Obviously he has to be attracted to you. He looks for a woman who can see beyond the pretense and machoness to who he really his and help build and support his future with her in it.


A lot of men and women go through at least two of these sets during their life-time as different factors affect us during our life cycle. 

A saying goes; its all good and nice to love the body but when that fades what will be left...

According to Mcpaul; "love is not blind, it sees but it doesn't mind" As I see it; " if you want a guy to love you for a lifetime, love his heart not his money; if you want a girl to love you for a lifetime, love her soul not her body". There will be a point when the money and the physical or material attributes will all fade, then what will be the focus?

Real men and women don't love the most beautiful people in the world, they love the ones who can make their world the most beautiful.

Appreciate the uniqueness. if what you see by the eye doesn't please you, then close your eyes and see from the heart. because the heart can see beauty and love more than the eyes can ever wonder. A girl with the prettiest face, skinniest waist or a guy with the macho body, strength to carry you and throw you in the air might not always have the biggest heart to love you with. The diamond you are going after might just be a stone compared to the ruby fighting for you attention.

Babes!!! open your eyes o and stop running after "the rock". That perfect guy you want might be the death of you.

Dudes!!! Let Halle Berry and Angelina Jolie go and look at the beauty fighting for your attention, right there in-front of you and stop comparing her to them.

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