What is Destiny? The hidden power believed to control what will happen in the future. The term "FATE" can be used in its place.
What will happen in future. Our destiny, Our fate.
How far do we go in determining this?
As I sit and examine this amazing puzzle, I am taken back to when we are babies. Even then our destiny is not in our hands. It a decision that lies with our respective parents. They had to decide to have us, for us to be in existence. I think of those whose destiny had been terminated as a result of pre-mature death, or being aborted.
You become a new born, a toddler, and then a teenager. Even then you have little or no say in the decisions that shape your destiny. Your school, the extra activities you take, what you wear, what you eat, how you relate and talk is not entirely based on you. You are affected by your parents, the media, your friends and people you look up to.
Then comes the choice for University and everyone has got a say on what they feel you should go and study. Everyone has a reason for their suggestions. In the case that the choice depends on you, you hope you are selected by the university as being good enough and meeting their requirements. Even in this case, you have chosen your university but the choice of being selected is still not up to you. Hence your destiny is still in the hand of another person. While at University the grades and overall classification you come out with, as much as we might want to say lies in our hands is still determined by people outside your control. As such their opinions go a long way in your study pattern, your writing style, your opinions and views and in general your perspective of the academic world.
You finish studying and the society at large expects the next step to be you going out there, to find a suitable employment. Then comes the long process of applications, and even here your writing style is still determined by what employers and agencies are looking for and find acceptable. Your covering letter and CV have to meet a particular standard to be shortlisted, and selected. Then, the skills you have acquired over the years also go a long way in determining if you application will be processed. Even then, the choice of being made an offer is still not in your hands as the employer has got to find you suitable job-wise and personality-wise. To an extent the choice to accept or not accept an offer made lies with you and the current economic situation you are in.
When you finally get the job, your career progression is determined by your efforts and the management noting this effort and regarding it as good enough for a promotion. Your success at work is determined by how well you adapt to the work environment, the vary cultures and work ethics.
Health, Economic climate, the environment, friends, relatives, circumstances and situations in life all affect our destiny one way or the other. Life in general is affected by these factors. However, this is all as much as we let them affect us
Does ones Destiny get changed as a result of events in life and the happenings in the environment. As I sit and ponder, I came to the conclusion, that everything in life happens for a reason. We are born, live and die, accomplish the things we do, face the challenges and set backs we do in life all for a reason. However, as much as all these factors affect our destiny in life, the extent to which its affected is dependent on us as individuals. We make our lives what we determine and live our lives to be. We make our decisions and the consequences for these decisions is what life becomes and what our destiny is based on.
You want your destiny to be bright and fulfilled, grab these little events of life, these factors that determine destiny and stare it in the face with no fear or shortcomings and make the best use of all the opportunities it presents. Its not easy but it lies with you. Live your life in a way that you can look back from time to time, and be grateful for your destiny. Live your life, at least the part you get a say in the way you want to live it not by the dictation of others. Perseverance is the key, people won't always like you, situations and events might not always change but you always have the option of adapting and making the best use of whatever circumstances you find yourself. Your destiny is in your hands but is affected by the factors, events, situations that you allow to affect it!
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